As you know, I talk a lot about the value of being in the moment. Being in your head is the opposite of being in the moment. If you are in your head, you aren’t present… you are in your head thinking, ruminating, worrying, analyzing yourself out of the present and into the past or the future.
As one who lives in my head, I know the ramifications first hand (or head). It steals your peace, robs you of creativity and interferes with productivity. It also creates a state of anxiety, depression and negativity. UGH.
You know you are in your head when you feel anxious, nervous or depressed, when you feel tension in your body, when your thoughts and reactions are negative more than positive, when you have a loop of scenarios going through your mind. If you are grumpy, you are in your head. You can get so sucked into that vortex that you don’t even realize how uncomfortable you are.
Pay attention to this list above and note when you are in stuck in your head and need to make a shift. The way out is to ground (center) yourself and shift your energy to lift your mood.
To ground yourself: exercise, meditate, journal your thoughts, bounce your feet up and down to get the energy flowing to your feet and out of your head, dance around your house, do things to get in your body and to shake it off. It’s important to do these things regularly to stay centered.
Shift your mood with water, naps and laughter. Water is a miracle worker. If you feel blue or sleepy, drink a glass of water and wait for the shift! Power naps reset your energy field and shift your mood. When you do a power nap, consider listening to binaural beats so it is a combo nap/meditation. Sleep resets your energy and you will be in a different space. You may even feel your energy clear!
Laughter shifts everything and instantly. Seriously. Have you noticed how it snaps you out of your current mood? Find something to laugh at daily… social media videos, TV shows, comedy, funny books. I recently started watching South Park. Yeah, I know, I am WAAAAYYYY late to that game but I wasn’t interested in it until now for some reason. It is such an irreverent show but OMG so funny! I think half the time I laugh because I can’t believe they are actually showing this on TV! South Park is my go to when I need to shift my mood. Find yours if you don’t have one and use it often!
Life is heavy these days but you don’t have to be. Try these methods to lift out of the slog. We have to make an effort to keep ourselves light or we will drown in the muck. So, ground yourself regularly and shift your mood with water, power naps and lots and lots of laughter. Then you will be out of your head and able to hear instant insights and get inspired action as needed to navigate life plus you will enjoy it oh, so much more.
Meet Your Unseen Friends
The past lockdown and restrictions that are still in place have created a sense of isolation. Even if you are living in a household with others, there is separation from family, friends, colleagues, even strangers. We are all discovering how much these connections sustain us! Introverts tend to handle this situation better yet isolation is different than the preferred solitude.
This isolation creates the ideal opportunity to connect with your own personal guides and angels. These are higher dimensional, otherworldly beings who are here to love and support us, without judgement or reproach. You may have your own name for these friends. Whatever you call them, get to know them.
Your guides and angels are around you all of the time. We are never alone. I know this is abstract and esoteric but it is truth. They are here to love, comfort and assist when asked. They have a certain resonance, they feel a certain way. You can literally feel their presence if you allow it.
You or someone you know probably have had an experience when there was some intervention that was helpful or even life-saving. Or you received exactly what you needed at exactly the right time. This is your unseen friends at work.
Try this: sit quietly and breathe. Then call in your guides and angels. Sense them around you. You may feel a sense of comfort, love or peace around you, or simply a presence. If you can’t feel anything, it likely means that you are in your head. So try this: Call in the Light to fill you and surround you. Light is the highest vibration, the highest frequency that exists and as you call it into you, it lifts your own vibration. So do that. Call in the light and say “I call in the light to fill me and surround me”. Repeat this and you will start to feel different, lighter, calmer… or just different. Then call in your guides again. Don’t over think it, feel it. On a side note, calling in the Light is a good thing to do anytime you feel down or off as it lifts you out of that lower vibration into a better feeling place.
Once you identify that feeling, you will recognize it more easily. You will understand that they do exist and then you can start to connect with them on a regular basis. If you feel lonely or isolated, simply ask them to surround you and comfort you. If you need help with “X”, ask them to help. They can lift your fear, anxiety, worry and pain if you give it to them. When you ask them, they are taking it from you and giving it to a higher power… God, Goddess, Source, Universe… giving it to the Light to be transmuted.
Human contact is critical for our well-being. People come and go. When human contact is in short supply, remember that you are not alone. Each one of us has our own unseen friends on stand-by at all times. Do yourself a favor and connect with them. Get to know these benevolent beings. If you need help getting in touch with yours, contact me and I can help.
Life becomes much more manageable when you realize that you have a team by your side. Open yourself to this possibility and bring a little more ease and peace into your life. Doesn’t that sound divine?
Election Time Solutions
Here we are, the week of the most contentious election during the most challenging year we have experienced as a collective. Calling it is intense is an understatement! Even if you don’t follow politics or even vote, the tension is palpable and permeating virtually everything. The fact that we have become a divisive society of extreme perspectives such as us vs them, right/wrong, we are good/they are evil create high anxiety and even fear around the outcome.
Here is how you can navigate this week and the election results: Have patience, be gracious, process your emotions and trust.
“Everything comes gradually and at its appointed hour.” – Ovid
This election already has been a test of our patience and it isn’t over yet! It is very likely we won’t know the results right away so try to be patient. This may take practice but it will spare your sanity. People are VERY tense about this election so be patient with others too. Even if you are fairly chill about it all, remember that others are stressed. Be extra patient with loved ones, and people you encounter out in the world in your daily activities. Smile a little more this week too. Please 🙂
“You learn how to be a gracious winner and an outstanding loser” ~ Joe Namath
When the results are final… whenever that is!… be gracious. Some people will be elated over the results while others will be unhappy, maybe even devastated. Be sensitive to other’s responses to the results as you would hope they would as well. If your candidate wins, be a gracious winner. Don’t gloat, don’t be obnoxious, don’t act out. Temper your righteous zeal. If your candidate loses, be an outstanding loser. Don’t go on the attack, don’t be obnoxious, don’t lash out. Temper your righteous zeal. Did you notice the similarities?? Emotions are high for everyone so be respectful and understand that your actions have impact. Do you want to perpetuate the division or are you ready to work towards harmony? “If you want understanding try giving some.” ~ Malcolm Forbes
Process Your Emotions
“Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance.” ~ Deepak Chopra
Process the intense emotions you feel about the results and do so in a healthy way. You may feel anger, despair, shame, fear, anxiety, confusion, hopeless or even helpless. Channel this by talking to a trusted friend or therapist. Journal. Cry, yell, punch a pillow. Be gentle with yourself while you grieve and work through the stages. Don’t blame “them”, get involved to create the desired country, starting with your community.
Remember, the presidency is one person, one branch. Don’t give that person so much power over you and your life. Use your negative emotions, or positive if that is the case, and pour it into your community, become an activist, volunteer, form a group with a cause. Get involved in local politics and council meetings. Local is where it all starts and where the real impact is anyway. Be a seeker of synergy, not a soldier of division.
“I trust in the ebb and flow of the universe. I trust that life’s bigger than what I can see. I trust that there is a divine order beyond my control. And I trust that no matter what happens, I will be all right.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
I know this may be tough right now but trust that whatever the outcome, it is for the highest good even if we can’t see why or how. We are in the midst of great change in this country. Whomever wins is a catalyst for that change either as a result of his actions or a response to his actions. Trust that there is a bigger picture to this that will come into focus in the coming months and years. There are bigger forces at play and will be revealed in time.
Don’t assume what life or our country will be like as a result of this president. 2020 has been a year of sudden change big surprises and 2021 will be more of the same. It will be a more settled year in some ways yet will also be full of surprises and revelations. This year has taught us to be more adaptable to change, to not get so disrupted or derailed by it. We are a little more desensitized to sudden change which will serve us well.
In a severely divided nation, we are at a crossroads. Do you want harmony or do you want separation? Do you want isolation or community? To you want to just survive or do you want to thrive? This fate is ultimately in OUR hands, not our elected officials. If we understand this, if we act with honor towards each other, our elected officials will be forced to do the same and we will have harmony, community and we will thrive. If we stay complacent, angry or self-focused, we will have more of the same separation, isolation and will barely survive. Which will you choose? Practice surrendering to trust, stay in the moment and take action when inspired. You do have impact.
“When people honor each other, there is a trust established that leads to synergy, interdependence, and deep respect. Both parties make decisions and choices based on what is right, what is best, what is valued most highly.” ~ Blaine Lee
Are We Really that Different?
There is so much us/them good vs evil talk flying around. Have you noticed? It’s hard to escape or ignore. This sort of dogma is limited in its thinking, arrogant and divisive. Those who subscribe to this mindset believe that “we” are right and “they” are wrong. So, who is right? Do you see the problem here?
Sure, it is important to have your opinions, to know your values and what matters to you in the scope of your world. Yet this kind of righteous zeal is rampant and exclusive, prohibiting any kind of synergy or harmony. This mindset is what causes war, right? You don’t have to agree with the opinion of others but please, for the sake of humanity, soften the focus of your beliefs in order to make room for others to exist in the same space. Who knows, you may even learn something new. At the very least, you will be contributing to a world of more harmony and less strife.
I’m reading the book LSD and the Mind of the Universe: Diamonds from Heaven by Christopher M. Bache, a professor emeritus in the Department of Philosophy and Religious Studies at Youngstown State University. The author documents his experiences and revelations during 73 psychedelic journeys.
Early in the book he summarizes the overall premise that he experienced… the premise of oneness. You hear new age people say “we are all one”, “we are all connected” and may wonder what in the world does that babble even mean? It’s such an abstract concept especially when you consider how different we are. It was too out there, even for me and you know how out there I can be! Admittedly, I used to do a mental eye roll when I’d hear this. Puhleeeze!
But when I read Dr. Bache’s words, I was transported. I literally had a moment where I lifted out of this dense third dimensional reality of earth, life, people etc and tapped into the Oneness that he described. To paraphrase, he describes it as one unit breathing together… every atom, molecule, human, plant, everything… breathing together as part of a divine being/source of “unimaginable compassion, clarity and spiritual power”. When I was able to tap into that I was filled with an overwhelming sense of peace and tranquility. It was humbling and I felt insignificant. It made me realize how small and trivial the “stuff” of life really is.
Ok I know I’m getting weird here but indulge me. Think about this for a moment. If everything is energy, as Einstein discovered, then all energy is connected. It’s not the same frequency but it is all energy. It’s not the same but it is all connected. So yes, we are all connected in a vast realm of oneness. Does that make sense? Feel your way through that a little. Maybe you have experienced this yourself in your own practice. Or go ahead and do a mental eye roll. I won’t judge!
So, let’s bring it back to our earth reality now… Of course, we have our differences. There are the typical differences: cultural, religious, political, socio economic. Then there are the experiential differences: preferences, available rights and opportunities, lifestyle, interests, education, career, family unit and the like. Therefore, we are not the same in this regard. However, we are similar in the sense that we all seek to meet our basic needs.
According to Maslow hierarchy of needs, we are motivated to fulfill needs according to a ranking of importance. While the ranking can vary from person to person, the needs are universal.
The needs in order of his pyramid are as follows:
- Physiological: food, water, breathing, homeostasis
- Security and Safety: Financial security, health and wellness, safety against accidents and injury
- Social needs: friendships, romantic attachments, family, social groups, community groups, churches and religious organizations
- Esteem: need for appreciation and respect
- Self-actualization: to achieve one’s full human potential
If we can see life through this lens, we would be much more understanding and patient with people and their views, their hardships and behaviors. Sure, there are bad people out there, people who cause harm to others without remorse. But most of us humans are simply bumping into each other as we try to meet our basic needs for ourselves and our loved ones. Every single one of us. As you acknowledge those similarities and create more harmony and less strife, it makes it easier for all of us to meet our needs. We would be working more together towards a common goal instead of fighting battles with each other. Oh, what a world that would be! Not to mention way more enjoyable.
I’ve been hearing stories lately about big challenges in relationships. Have your relationships been moving along relatively smoothly and then all of the sudden you are having arguments about things that were never an issue? Or have you both been working hard on your relationship, making great progress on harmony and communication and you have regressed back to the old ways of relating? Are you picking at each other about every little thing, much less tolerant of each other and overly annoyed about virtually everything? Yeah, it’s sort of a theme right now. But don’t fret! It will pass.
It’s been a hell of a year and it is reaching its boiling point with the election. Plus the planets are increasing the intensity in a major way. This is all for a purpose though. It’s not just to make us crazy. Planets align to support us in our journey of growth, awakening and change.
Assuming that for the most part your relationship flows along with the usual ups and downs, this is just a bump. It’s a bigger and maybe longer bump than usual but still a bump. It is an opportunity to see where the work is needed. It’s likely so glaring that you can’t ignore or deny it!
So take a look at what this discord is showing you. Do your communication skills need a refresher or a deeper look? Have you noticed an area where you two are not cohesive? Is that issue you have been suppressing finally on the surface? Or maybe it’s a matter of having more patience and grace with each other.
On the other side of this coin, if your relationship is truly dysfunctional and not serving you (or them), then the discomfort will be strong in order to compel you to act. What I have seen lately however is people who are in good places in their relationships over all have regressed back to old patterns or negative behaviors.
Hey, we are all on edge right now. Everyone is acting a little goofy. Even if you don’t give two hoots about the election or it’s outcome, the tension is palpable everywhere. You can’t really escape it. And after a very long year of all kinds of stuff that is still in the mix. So go easy on yourself and each other. Look at what the discord is showing you and do the work that is needed. Be more benevolent and less reactive. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Finally, don’t forget to breathe!! Better yet, let’s all breathe together. Inhale… Exhale… Ahhhhhh….
PS: Call me and let me support you!
Freedom To Vote
DISCLAIMER: THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT POLITICS
Can you feel the intensity amping up? The year started with Covid and is culminating with this very contentious election. Even if you don’t care who wins, even if you aren’t one who votes, the energy is palpable.
Speaking of voting, if you don’t typically vote, I strongly encourage you to do so, not just for this election but from now on. You may feel our candidates are less than ideal or that your vote doesn’t matter. You may not know anything about the propositions on your local ballot. Vote anyway. I will tell you that energetically, voting matters very much. Here I go being all “out there” again!! LOL. Hear me out…
The act of voting is about freedom… the freedom to use your voice, freedom to choose, freedom to participate, freedom to craft the world you want to live in. Huh?? It adds to the collective high vibration of freedom because freedom is a high frequency.
Freedom means different things to different people… Freedom to choose, freedom to have a voice, freedom of opportunity, freedom from oppression, freedom to live safely in your community, freedom to thrive to the level that you choose, to create the life that you want, freedom to educate yourself, freedom to love, freedom to have access to healthy options. To be sure, some of these freedoms aren’t available to everyone, including in this country. Voting is an act of freedom and therefore creates more freedom in general.
It goes along with the law of reciprocity. If you want more love, be more loving. If you want more compassion, be more compassionate. If you want more money, be more generous. You get what you give. Get it??
So vote. Even if you write in a candidate because you don’t like the choices on the ballot, vote. Vote for local candidates or propositions that matter to you. Just vote for something, even if only one office or issue. The energy of voting contributes to the collective reality and perpetuates freedom, thereby creating more freedoms for all. See, you DO have impact!
Root to Rise… and Shine
This is the year of active pause. We all know that Covid-19 has brought life to a halt in many ways. While there may be many things you can’t do as a result, there is a great deal that you can and should be doing during this time. Hence “active pause”.
For example, this is a time to assess priorities in your personal and professional life. The pandemic has shifted the importance of things for many of us. What matters to you? Why do those things matter?
How are your relationships? The true dynamics of our relationships have come to light during this time. Take stock of what is working and where healing is needed. Get honest with yourself about what relationships don’t serve you and need to end or change. Appreciate the people in your life and the aspects of your relationships that add to your life and expand your heart.
Go within. Begin/accelerate your journey of self-awareness and healing. Read books. Seek therapy. Begin or amp up a practice as I call it…. your personal method to center, calm, ground yourself, manage stress, and connect with Spirit. Yoga, journaling, meditation, music, cooking, creative projects, drinking lots of water… whatever is your way of connecting so that you can move through life with more ease and receive instant clarity as needed.
Work your business. While business may be slow right now, it isn’t dead. The economy won’t stay like this forever. In the very near future (sooner than you may think) life will open up fully and you will want to be ready! Don’t just plan, execute. Even small efforts right now will poise you to be ready when the dust clears. The “new” business is about integrity, community, and equality so take this time to make sure yours is aligned with those principles. Businesses who don’t operate with these traits will struggle more and more in the future.
You have to root to rise. This year is about cleaning house, internally (root) so that once life opens up again you will be ready to rise… rise and shine to create your life to your liking and as we create a new society of freedom, equality, compassion, and abundance for all who want it.
The Wisdom in Outrage
There seems to be a sense of outrage these days. Outrage is a strong word but I use it here to make a point. I personally agree with Seth MacFarlane when he said “Most of the outrage comes from not the public, but from the media, the press and writers”. Yet there is a palpable level of distress and even disgust as people are disturbed by the actions of individuals, groups, systems, institutions and each other.
This isn’t happening because of one person or one group etc. It is because our systems are broken and the way we treat each other is intolerable. Bad, self serving behavior is not new. In fact, it has been in play for many years and coming to an undeniable culmination this year. Why? So that we can make the changes to create a new world that offers freedom, equality, compassion and abundance for all who want it.
Outrage is a gift if you can get to the root. Take a look at what is currently upsetting you and break it down. First, look at the person/group/behavior/system/institution and identify what about it is disturbing. Then look beyond the who and the what and find the root. What is it about that person/group/system/event etc that triggers you. Is it injustice? Oppression? Dishonesty? Inequality? Lack of responsibility, accountability, generosity or integrity?
“Channel your outrage… Do that which you are able to do” ~ Kathy Reichs
Then use this information to create change. First, internalize it. Start with yourself since nothing changes until you do. Where in your own behavior or life do you display that upsetting trait that you see in others? Everything is a mirror so take an honest look at where you exhibit the same characteristic to whatever degree. We often are what we judge so first clean up your own house so to speak. This exercise also helps you process your strong feelings that may be in the range of the lower vibration (refer to my post from September 28th) and elevates it, and you, to the higher frequency.
Next, externalize it. Use your voice and take action towards creating the change. It can be as simple as dialoguing with a friend or sharing your truth on social media. Or take if further and and support a cause or an organization that reflects your truth. Donate, spread the word about their work, or get involved. Perhaps consider starting your own.
Step one shifts your vibration into a higher frequency. Then when you act, when you take this out into the world, you will come from a place of peace, temperance, harmony and love which is higher frequency than outrage and higher frequency.
Use the wisdom of your intense emotions and reactions to serve yourself and the greater good. Otherwise, it only serves to bring you down and contributes the problem. Be a part of the solution and actively contribute to creating our new, beautiful world!
As always, if you need help exploring these or other concepts I write about, contact me!
Lift Your Vibe and We Will All Survive and Thrive
Let’s talk about vibrations. Everything is energy. The discovery of the atom proves this. Albert Einstein told us this. It is an indisputable truth.
You are energy. Inanimate objects are energy. Thoughts emit energy. Emotions emit energy. Everything vibrates at a different frequency. As humans with evolving consciousness we have the capacity to shift our frequency… to lift it or to lower it at any given time.
Two very different vibrations can’t occupy the same space without conflict. To keep it simple, a 2 frequency can’t occupy the same space as say a 34. These are arbitrary numbers used to make a point but you get the idea. This isn’t about good or bad, better or worse, it is about energy. It is about frequency.
Now, let’s apply this to present day chaos. There is a LOT of fear, rage, discord and even indifference. Set aside the “why” and the “what” behind it all and focus on the frequency. If you can shift the frequency, you can change the what and the why. Yep, it can be that easy. Yet not that simple.
Peace is a higher vibe than fear. Temperance is a higher vibe than rage. (Anger, as opposed to rage, is useful and healthy if channeled properly.) Harmony is higher than discord and love is higher frequency than indifference. You can’t feel fearful and peaceful at the same time. You can’t be in rage and think or act in a tempered, effective way. Discord prohibits harmony as is evident by our current polarized state in this country and indifference, not hate, is the opposite of love.
So, how do you lift your frequency?
- Recognize the space you are in at any given moment. The higher you are vibing, so to speak, the better you will feel. If your frequency at that moment is on the lower scale, you will feel heavy, stressed, fearful, anxious, rage. If it is higher, you will feel more calm, happy, light, centered, loving. These are varying degrees and can change moment to moment.
- Be aware of your thoughts. Our thoughts are a major cause of our current vibration and as such, you can lift or lower in an instant simply by changing a thought. This isn’t always easy but it is doable.
- Heal your wounds. We all have wounds. Unhealed or unacknowledged wounds cause pain, rage, shame, victim mentality, abuse, states of being that lower our frequency. Do the work to heal your wounds and you will naturally vibe higher. Remember, you are wounded, you are not broken, and wounds can heal.
- Help others. This also lifts your vibe quickly. Being of service takes you outside of yourself and your head, taps you into the higher frequency of love, builds community so you feel more safe and when you feel more safe your vibration is higher. Get the picture?
EVERYTHING is energy. So if you feel scared or helpless about what is going on in your life or in the world, recognize your frequency level and lift it. The more you do, the higher you will vibe on a regular basis. Energy work is great for this too. Your vibration contributes to the frequency of the collective. Read that again.
The higher the collective vibration the less fear, rage, discord and indifference we will have in our lives, our nation and or world. THAT is a key solution to all this chaos my friends. It is an opportunity for us to wake up to this indisputable truth that everything is energy, to own the power that we have and create a lighter, higher vibrating world that offers freedom, equality, compassion and abundance for all who want it. But we have to do our part.
Lifting the frequency makes the ick… oppression, domination, violence, hate etc… shrink because two opposing frequencies can’t occupy the same space. Are you starting to understand? Yeah, I thought so. Change can be as easy as lifting your frequency. Give it a try. At the very least, you will feel better. At the most, your life will improve and so will your world.
Time To Contribute
“Fight for the things that you care about but do it in a way that will lead others to join you” Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Oh 2020, you keep surprising us don’t you?! The passing of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, while not unexpected, has created another ripple in an already tumultuous year.
Justice Ginsburg was a champion for justice and equality. Whether or not you agree with her positions on the Court, she has the respect and admiration across the political and social spectrum for her integrity, steadfast determination, generous spirit and grace. Her passing is a call to action for all of us at this most critical time.
2020 is the year when our vision becomes 20/20… we begin to see clearly what is broken in our lives, our systems, our nation and in our world. We need to see in order to change what is broken, what is not longer working.
What would you like to see change in your life, in your community, in your nation and in your world? What cause speaks to you? Politics? Environment? Equality? Children? Animals? Education? Homelessness? Maybe getting your own house in order is your first priority.
The list of challenges is long so search your heart and discover what matters to you the most, what systems you would like to impact, including your own internal system. This year is calling us to find our voice, take action and make our society a better place for ourselves and each other. How are you willing to contribute? You don’t have to be loud, offensive, obnoxious or judgmental. Follow Justice Ginsburg’s lead and proceed with integrity, steadfast determination, generous spirit and grace. While our lives may be different, our goals are the same. Together we can create a generous, thriving society for all.
“If you want to be a true professional, you will do something outside yourself, something to repair tears in your community, something to make life a little better for people less fortunate than you. That’s what I think a meaningful life is – living not for oneself but for one’s community” ~ Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Listen to Your Gut Feeling and Find Peace in the Chaos
I have talked about the value of your intuition, aka gut feeling, in the context of making decisions. Now I’m going to discuss the importance of using your intuition as you navigate the information age.
We are inundated with information: the internet, 24-hour news, social media. Add to that this 2020 year of pandemic, politics, protests, and pandemonium. We seek information to guide, inform, and educate us as we make decisions that are right for ourselves, our loved ones, our communities, and our country. And yet, the information we receive is more subjective than objective, motivated by fear, drama, and personal agendas and the sources are often questionable and unreliable. It is an extremely stressful time in this regard. At a time when we need to know, how do you determine what is truth and what is falsehood? You listen to your gut.
Use your intuition to guide you to what is truth for YOU. Your intuition knows and it will let you know, too. If you read something, pause and ask yourself, “does this feel like truth?” If it does, you will feel a calm sensation in your chest or stomach for example. If it feels false, you will feel a tension, constriction or pressure in these areas. It is important to note that the sensation will be FLEETING. If it lingers, it is your emotional attachment to the information. If that happens, take a few deep breaths and ask to “know the truth”. Then ask yourself again “is this truth?”
You may have noticed this happening already…. Seeing something on the news and realizing something about what is being said just doesn’t feel right. You don’t have to know why, just recognize that awareness.
We have our opinions, our beliefs and our preferences. Right now emotions are at an all-time high so it can be difficult for your gut feeling to come through. But it is there, you simply have to put your emotion aside for a brief moment so you can get the information from your intuition. Practice this with information that is not so emotionally charged if you don’t notice it happening automatically. In time it will.
It is important now that we sift through all the information chaos and find the truth. There is a lot of drama, fear, confusion, and agendas out there. Even if what you hear may support or go against your own personal agenda, take a moment and check in to find out if it is truth. With truth comes peace as it ends the confusion and chaos. It gives you the power to act in a reasonable, effective way that is best for you and ultimately best for all. With truth comes understanding and compassion.
Your intuition will never fail you. You just have to recognize it, set your attachment aside, and let it speak to you. What you do with that knowledge is up to you. We can no longer rely on “them” to tell us the truth. We have to seek it for ourselves and trust our gut to know what is right. The more we do this, the sooner we will turn this chaos to calm.
Taking a Good Hard Look at Our Relationships
Good morning friends!
As we continue to traverse this ever-changing year, have you noticed a shift in your relationships? Not just with a significant other but with friends, neighbors, other relatives?
This year has created opportunities to take a good hard look at our relationships. It’s been a great year for getting real, healing, and letting go where needed. Have issues come to the forefront that needed to be addressed with your mate or family members in your household that are long overdue? Do you have a newfound appreciation for friends and even neighbors? Or have you been able to let go of relationships that no longer work?
This is one of the gifts of this crazy year. It’s not to say that aspect of this year hasn’t been painful or difficult at times. Relationships have their challenges and this year we really couldn’t deny them anymore. Nor could we overlook how much the people in our lives mean to us.
Last but not least, it has given us all a chance to address the relationship we have with ourselves. We have seen our strengths and weaknesses. We have tapped into reservoirs of resourcefulness we never knew we had. We have sought support and offered support thereby expanding our capacity to love and deepening our compassion.
Take stock of where you are in this aspect of this year. Embrace the opportunity for healing. Bask in appreciation for the love and support you have in your life and the love and support you give to others. Find ways to share more of yourself. Learn to love all aspects of you for your brilliance is greater than you know. Cherish this gift of 2020 and the 20/20 vision this year brings.
The Covid Funk
As we are well in the 5th month of this pandemic, the impact continues. Depression, anxiety, lack of motivation and inspiration, lost jobs, lost homes, and lost loved ones. Here are a few ways to help you move through the funk.
If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, feeling unmotivated, and uninspired you need to lift your spirits:
- Seek professional resources if necessary.
- Write down 10 uplifting things you can do, put in a bowl and draw 3 out each day to do, such as: go for a walk, take a 20-minute nap or mediation, take a bath, do a creative activity, journal for 20 minutes, watch a funny movie or video.
If you have lost your job and/or your home, you need action which is the antidote to fear:
- Assess all aspects of your current finances. This will give you a clear picture of your situation.
- Assess possible resources to get you through this phase… temporary income, temporary housing with a friend, etc.
- Every morning, make a list of 7 things to do that day to find new employment or generate income in other ways, or find new housing. Such as: call 3 people for leads or ideas, research a new skill to learn, send 5 resumes out that day, call 3 friends who may need roommates, spend one hour brainstorming new ideas for income either short term or long term.
- Do #2 in the list above to lift your spirits and stay motivated.
If you have lost a loved one, you need comfort:
- Give yourself permission to grieve.
- Surround yourself with comforting people, objects, music, books, pets.
- Call in your guides and angels to comfort you, go to a religious or spiritual source for nurturing.
- Feel your feelings as they come up.
- Do #2 in the list above to lift your spirits.
As I have been saying, this is a time when we will be creating community to survive and thrive. Seek out community to support you during this time, to help you accomplish your goals and meet your needs. Reciprocate as needed. And remember, nothing stays the same.
The Other Side Of The Coin
Have you ever heard of a concept called Negativity Bias? As humans, we are hard-wired to give far more weight to the negative than the positive… thoughts, emotions, experiences, etc. Our brains are hard-wired to focus on the negative as a means of survival. Think back to ages where basic survival was under constant threat therefore one had to focus on the negative in order to stay alive. While this does not apply in our modern-day society, our brains don’t know that.
Now think about this tendency and how this plays out during the current pandemic. There are so many uncertainties and our means of survival… income, food, physical and mental health, social needs, etc. feel threatened. We know stress causes health challenges. And yet the positive perspectives can have a tremendously beneficial impact on your health, well-being and ability to obtain desired outcomes.
Here are some suggestions to see the other side of the coin of the negativity bias:
First, become aware of your thoughts and self-talk. I know this can be challenging! One way to know if your negativity bias is active is to pay attention to how you feel. If you are thinking about something and feeling stressed, tense, depressed, anxious, that is a good indicator. Once you identify the negative, tell yourself to stop. Even if you have to do that over and over. Then find a positive thought either related to the original focus or not. If you can’t get to a positive, then go neutral.
Next, see the bigger picture of what is going on. That is where the benefits of a situation, the gifts, can be seen. While details are important, we can get mired in them and lose our way. That is where we can ruminate or go down a rabbit hole of despair. For example, some aspects of the bigger picture of the pandemic could include a shift in priorities, an appreciation for things once taken for granted, and a new sense of community.
Finally, give equal weight to the things that could go right as to the things that could go wrong. Negative bias causes us to focus 3 times more on the negative. Allow yourself to give as much if not more attention to the positive potentials.
For example, say you think about the possibility of losing your job. It starts with the thought of losing your job now. Then it goes to losing it in a few months. Then to how/when you will find a job if/when you lose it, then to what it will mean if you do lose your job, being without income, then the rabbit hole takes you to the worst possible outcomes of that scenario. First thing is to stop the thought in its tracks. Just say “STOP!”. Then, either focus on a positive thought such as “If I lose my job it will be for the best because I wasn’t happy anyway”. Or neutral:
“I may lose my job but I have what it takes to figure out the next steps and execute efficiently.”
Then list all of the possible positive ways this scenario could play out: “I may not lose my job at all.” ”I will find one I like better.” “I will use this as a chance for a career change.” “I can go back to school and learn a new skill.” “I can move in with so and so and we can share resources and lessen the burden on ourselves.”
This is a practice for sure. Give yourself time to get into the habit of becoming aware of your negativity bias and then practice shifting it, or at the very least, stop it. It’s ok if you don’t do it every time, just start now. It will bring a lightness to state of mind and being. We all sure need that right now and we have the tools to achieve it!
Here we are still in the midst of this pandemic shut down, some things slowly opening, many restrictions still in place.
Are you having trouble staying motivated throughout the day? There are a lot of emotions, anger and fears around this pandemic and the restrictions associated. Maybe you are still working so your routine has not been altered that much so being motivated is easy. Maybe because of the situation even motivation to work is hard. Or maybe things that need to be done aside from work get ignored because that is where the motivation lacks.
For me, I am definitely having trouble with motivation. I used to go to the gym for CrossFit and yoga 4-5 times a week. I am totally unmotivated to work out at home. Yuck. If I have errands to do, or house projects, I delay as long as possible. I forget to do things too. In my case, it comes from a lack of things to do outside of work. I am a social person and not being able to do that makes me want to do very little. Plus I can literally feel the constricted energy of life for all coming to a halt and it is SO heavy. I’m sure some of you feel it too!
My point here isn’t to whine. I believe we need to be respectful and mindful of what is happening around us. But if you find yourself unmotivated right now, give yourself a break. It’s ok and it is normal especially during this most unusual time. Self-care is critical now and we have extra down time currently so spend some on you. Maybe doing nothing for a few hours is what you need. For things like household projects, errands, etc. write down each thing, put them all in a bowl and draw one out to do that day. That way you will feel productive. If you only do one of those things, so be it. And if you don’t do any of them that day, does it really matter??
I have often said to take time and assess what you really need to do and let the rest go when you feel overwhelmed. Well, if there were ever a time do put this in play, it would be now! I bet you have discovered that some things you felt you “needed” to do weren’t that necessary after all!! If you feel unmotivated, it’s ok. Give yourself permission to be a little… or a lot… off. While the year ahead with this pandemic is uncertain, it won’t last forever. We are creating a new normal to cope during this time while establishing new long-lasting norms.
Stay well friends. While the tunnel is very long, we are starting to see a dim light come through.
Hello NUGL family!
As we navigate this time, have you noticed unusual things happening to you? Is your intuition stronger than before? Are you noticing the information that your intuition is giving you more and more? Do you “know”, “feel”, “see” or “hear” things?
Are people coming to you for advice more than usual? Are you being sought out when someone needs to calm their fears? If someone is sick, are you being asked or guided to pray for them or send healing energy? Have you had moments when you felt lighter than ever despite what’s going on?
Ok now indulge me with this one… are you finding very unusual occurrences such as seeing things that aren’t there, sensing a presence (an angel perhaps!) or feeling or seeing a loved one who has passed on? Or some other kind of unexplainable event?
As I have mentioned, this is a time of awakening and self-awareness. This includes an activation or acceleration of your gifts such as intuitive, empath, healer or medium and a deeper connection to higher vibrations and energies. These “unusual” experiences are an indication of your specific gifts and abilities. Now that I have brought this to your attention, maybe you will notice it if you have not already. It is happening. I “know” it is 😉
Note these experiences and embrace them. Sure, it may spook you a little but have fun with it. If odd things are happening and you don’t understand it, reach out to me and I will help you make sense of it.
It is a special time. Life will never be the same in many ways. WE will never be the same for MANY reasons. And that can be a very good thing indeed.
Stay well and sane friends!
Crisis and The Journey Into Yourself
Here we are in the midst of this national crisis where life has come to a screeching halt. We are all aware of the unprecedented hardships at this time: Concern for the health and well being of ourselves and others, job loss, safe at home orders and al that goes with it, fears about the economy, how long this will last and on and on.
Let’s look at what else is happening here: There is a deep concern for others, including strangers. Priorities are being rearranged. Money has never seemed so vital and yet so unimportant at the same time as our concern for others is at the forefront. Relationships are healing or ending as needed. We are reconnecting to ourselves and each other.
A deep awakening is happening. This is the part where you find out who you are.
“People need to know that they have all the tools within themselves. Self-awareness, which means awareness of their body, awareness of their mental space, awareness of their relationships – not only with each other, but with life and the ecosystem.” Deepak Chopra
And with this new sense of self-awareness, change will happen. Change is already happening. Life will be different for all of us now. That that can be ok. Self-awareness is the key to navigating it.
“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” Eckhart Tolle
And this crisis, this pause, is creating the space for us to do this.
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” Henry David Thoreau
So what does this look like? Some things you can do to become more self-aware: Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, what is going on in your body, your disposition, your relationships, your life. Journal these things. Be careful not to judge. This is not about putting a value judgment on yourself. This is about neutral awareness. Being an observer for now.
Use this information to assess what is an old pattern or belief, what is not serving you in your life. Get real and get honest.
Use this time to search your heart and your soul on what truly moves you. What is important to you. What matters.
Finally, create a practice to de-stress, release tension, to connect to your heart, your essence, your guides and angels, to Source/God. Sit quietly daily for 10-20 minutes. Learn to meditate and/or pray. Set your phone to go off every 2 hours to check in with yourself and take 20 deep breaths and reset your energy. Practice yoga or Tai Chi. Find what works for you and what makes you feel connected and peaceful. Repeat daily!
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” Aristotle
“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” Rumi
… Ready, let’s go!
What Is Your Motivation?
“Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.”
? Zig Ziglar,
What keeps you motivated to participate in the cannabis industry? Is it the joy that getting high brings? Is it gardening and cultivation? Is it the new paradigm that we are part of co-creating? We are busy people. You have your to do lists for work, home and personal and I imagine they are pretty long. What keeps you going other than obligation? Is it love of your job or family? It is a sense of purpose? Maybe it’s the opportunity to use your talents and skills. Does the passion for the cannabis industry motivate you? Or it may be simply the need for the paycheck or sense of duty.
So, what motivates you to do what you need to do? To check off your list? Sometimes life requires constant motivation. You work hard but the results are not immediate. You have goals but sometimes those are moving targets as we create and adjust to get it right. Life happens and our momentum and focus gets interrupted.
Think about motivates you with each day, each task. It goes back to discovering what matters to you which I wrote about on September 18th. What is your why for doing what you do? Look to others when your motivation gets stale. Be motivated by others actions, successes or struggles. Celebrate your wins, learn from your failures both individually and collectively. Keep the bigger picture in mind while tending to your daily responsibilities. And if some days you just can’t get into that “rah rah! Go team!” mode, let this be your motivation:
“If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way”
? Martin Luther King Jr.
“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.” ? Oprah Winfrey
This quote applies to every aspect of your life. Do you do what is right for the sake of integrity or notoriety? Are self-pride and strong character what motivates you or accolades and praise? Sure, we like praise and acknowledgment. We are human. But more often than not, which do you choose?
For example, at work, do you pick up the slack for someone because you want to point out that he/she is not doing what they are supposed to or to bolster your position? Or because it is better for the company or helps that person?
At home, every time you unload the dishwasher do you remind your mate that he/she has not done it and seek appreciation? Or do you do it because it needs to be done as part of keeping an orderly house that benefits everyone?
In your community, do you help out, donate to charity or get involved because you want to be known as THAT person? Or do you do it because you want to contribute to making your community better for everyone?
You hear of people anonymously buying strangers coffee or meals, donating to charity, leaving items on the doorstep of a needy family. What do you think motivates this behavior?
One definition of integrity is “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness”. Another is “the state of being whole and undivided”. The first definition speaks to personal principals and the second speaks to the results. Having personal integrity creates a sense of wholeness and unity within yourself and creates a strong, unified, supportive community.
Reflect on this and see what you notice. Having integrity is about your relationships with yourself, others and society. We get what we give in relationships. If you give more, you get more somehow, someway, somewhere. Maybe not from that person specifically but generosity begets more generosity. Be a silent inspiration and act in integrity every chance you get. You will be creating a state of wellness and vitality both within yourself and in your community!
Four Agreements for Life
Have you read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz? If not, I highly recommend it. It is an easy read and the wisdom is simple and practical. I’ll summarize below and add a few of my interpretations as well as the authors:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak the truth, say only what you mean. Don’t embellish or exaggerate. Follow through with what you say you will do. Speak with integrity which means be fully present in the moment and speak your truth in that moment. Watch your vernacular with phrases like “this is killing me!” Don’t gossip or speak ill of others or yourself. Use positive words or stay silent. Sometimes silence is better than the words you may choose.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
More often than not, how someone else behaves in any given moment is more about them than you. We are all on our own journey, dealing with the stuff of life which can be a motive for how we react and how we treat others. When someone is hurtful for example, it likely isn’t because you are bad, wrong, not good enough etc. It is because of an aspect within themselves. By not taking things personally, you lessen the drama in your life, you are more open to understanding another’s behavior which leads to more understanding and compassion, and eventually forgiveness. Taking things personally also perpetuates martyr mentality.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Assumptions can lead to confusion, hurt feelings, drama, stress, and anxiety. It can negatively impact your relationships. When you make assumptions, you jump to wrong conclusions. If you act on these conclusions that causes a whole host of other problems. Don’t assume, ask. Information is energy in motion. Making assumptions is due to a lack of information. So find out. Ask. When you do, the energy takes form, the focus becomes clear and then you will know what is what and can act appropriately.
4. Always Do Your Best
This speaks for itself. Even if your best doesn’t hit the mark, do it anyway. You will feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. Genius is the willingness to be wrong in the pursuit of what is right. Always doing your best no matter what is an aspect of genius. Don’t get hung up on whether or not your best is good enough. It is about exploring your genius and the intricate nuances of life. Think of a time where you didn’t do your best. How did that make you feel? Pretty icky, right?
Do these resonate? Which one(s) stand out? For me, number 2 has been my biggest challenge. It is easier as time goes on but it is still something that needs a regular reminder. The Four Agreements is a blueprint on how to live with integrity, honor and respect to yourself and others. timeless and succinct yet oh, so effective. I’d love to know what you think!
Know What Matters
You know what matters to you. You know what you want, what you do, what you like. But do you ever stop and think about why? Let’s explore the journey of what matters.
For example, say you want good health, more money, loving relationships, fulfilling work. Why do these things matter? A better quality of life, financial freedom, a sense of belonging, a sense of purpose all come to mind. Recognizing what matters makes the experience richer, more fulfilling and more meaningful. It expands the enjoyment and benefits. It increases your sense of accomplishment and creates more motivation to strive for your goals and interests. You are more present because you know what is motiving your actions.
Why does your job matter to you? Take a moment right now and ponder that. It is for the money? Because you like the work? Maybe it’s an opportunity to use your talents and skills. Perhaps it gives you a sense of purpose and pride. Maybe you like the industry or the vision of that particular company or idea. Whether you are an employee or entrepreneur, this process is helpful.
Next, think about why you do your job in the way that you do. Is it because it is the most efficient? Because you are told to do it that way? Because of guidance from your intuition? Assess what is behind the execution of your responsibilities, if you are using your talents and abilities to the fullest extent and being as productive as possible.
Genius is the willingness to be wrong in the pursuit of what is right. The journey of life embodies this concept. Discover why this job matters to you and why you are executing it this way. Explore this with other areas in your life as well. It will make the experience more fulfilling, the rewards richer and will allow you to work with more efficiency while using the fullest expression of your talents and abilities, including your spiritual talents. Doesn’t that sound grand?
Are you aware of your thoughts? It is believed that your thoughts create your reality. We are encouraged to keep thoughts positive, don’t focus on the negative and good things will happen. Is it that simple? It seems so HARD sometimes, doesn’t it? If it were that easy and that effective, why isn’t everyone doing it?
As someone like me who lives in their head, it is virtually impossible. Or is it?? What I know is this: your thoughts are the one thing that you can control. Maybe it’s the only thing. I also know that the benefits are undeniable.
Think about this for a minute: think about how much your thoughts affect your mood and anxiety level. I am amazed at how much it dictates my state of mind. I didn’t get this until I started to watch my thoughts and deliberately change whatever thought I was having. It shifted my mood almost instantly! Now, being a heady person as I am, my thoughts would go back to the ick and so would my mood. But then I would realize how crappy I felt and remembered that I can control this and changed my thoughts again. It’s a roller coaster to be sure but worth the ride!
First, become aware of what you are thinking. You may be surprised! Awareness is the first step to creating change. Next, remove a negative thought and replace it with something else. Ifyou are ruminating on something, let it go or swap it with something positive or simply a different thought. Change the words. Say a prayer or mantra. It doesn’t matter if you believe it. For now, just say it until you start to feel better.
If you just can’t find words, all you want is to feel better, try calling in the Light. Say in your mind “I call in the light”. Say it over and over until you start to feel lighter. Everything is energy and the Light is the highest vibration that exists so calling it into you lifts your vibe plus it gives your mind something different to say. See how clever that is? So become aware of your thoughts and practice changing them. Pay attention to your state of mind and any tension in your body to know if your thoughts are making it worse. The more you make this a habit, the easier it will be. You will feel better, happier, lighter and everyone around you will thank you!
You Have An Impact
I wasn’t sure what to write this week. We can’t help but be affected by what’s been happening in our country this month. I won’t preach about political philosophies, or why these things happen or what we should do. The issues facing us are not binary. Nothing is so simple. I will say this though: I believe that what we have been witnessing in our society over the past decades is rooted in the fact that people aren’t dealing with their pain. They aren’t facing their shame, anger, and fear. People are hurting; people feel lost, helpless, hopeless, and isolated with no sense of belonging. For many, the list is long — which is odd in this digitally-connected age.
Wisdom is the ability to see the bigger picture without losing sight of the smaller picture. It is a heartbreaking picture to be sure. What can you do about this? As I always say, “Nothing changes until you do.”
It all starts with you. Become more self-aware about what is going on internally. If you have anger issues, get real and deal with it. If you can’t let something go, journal or talk to a friend and get clarity for yourself. If you have unhealthy patterns, get help to re-pattern and change behavior, and in turn your reality.
Externally: pay attention to people around you more. Smile at strangers. Say hello. Open a door. People want to be seen, acknowledged, counted. They want to know that they matter. The truth is that you do have an impact. Giving your time and care to a stranger for just a moment can leave an imprint on that person. Being open-minded, supportive and compassionate is how we will collectively heal.
Nothing Changes Until You Do
“Nothing changes until you do” is more than a statement — it’s a way of life. It is the solution to creating change in your life and in your world.
The premise behind this saying is that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If you want to change the circumstances of your world, you need to start by changing yourself. It’s similar to Gandhi’s famous quote, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” The law of reciprocity applies here as well. You get what you give — the more you give of “X,” the more “X” you get. Exist in the flow of giving and receiving.
Let’s break it down into specific life examples.
Relationships: If you want/need more support from your mate, be more supportive towards them. If you feel you need more understanding from family members, be more understanding with their concerns. If you feel judged by others, be less judgmental yourself.
Money: If you want more money, be more generous. Give of your time, compassion, and even money, to bring the flow of money to you. Even tipping a server one extra dollar than you normally would creates this flow.
Political concerns: If you feel our leaders aren’t acting responsibly or being held to account, be more responsible and accountable in your own life. Be the change you seek. There is much pain in society. People are in crisis. It’s easy to feel helpless and hopeless. To create change, be more helpful yourself and spread that message — to neighbors, family, friends, strangers, and those in need.
It’s possible that the change you need in your life exists in the form of a negative belief or pattern. For example: if you often feel victimized, if you feel others are to blame for the happenings in your life, if self-pity is your go-to mode, then be honest about your own victim mentality. If it stems from your childhood, get to the root of the pain and heal it. Then learn how to empower yourself by taking charge of how you react and respond to the world around you. In doing so, you’ll become the author of your life. As you heal the inner victim, you will feel less like a victim in your life.
Take inventory of what you would like to change, of where you feel discord or discontent. Then, start with you. What can you do or heal to create the change that you want to see? Once you change what’s inside, the outer reflection will follow. Nothing changes until you do. What’s more empowering than knowing you have the tools to change your world?
Julie Farha is a recognized intuition expert, intuitive insight coach, speaker, corporate trainer and author. She understands the importance of intuition and instructs individuals and companies on how to apply intuitive decision-making to their everyday lives.
The Love of Laughter
“Laughter is the best medicine” is a phrase we often hear. Laughter has many benefits. It can boost the immune system, release tension, aid in circulation and improve mood. Laughter is fun and contagious. Everyone benefits from laughter both collectively and individually.
Have you noticed how you feel lighter after a laugh? Recall a time when you felt heavy or blue. Then something makes you laugh. Even just a chuckle. How did you feel after? Laughing lifts your vibration and since others laugh when you laugh, it lifts the vibration of those around you.
It is also great tension release during stressful times. This is why people tend to laugh at seemingly inappropriate times such as funerals. Can you recall a time of peak stress and you fell into a fit of laughter and couldn’t stop? You felt much better after, didn’t you?
Laughter brings people together. If a friend is struggling, you go to him or her to cheer them up with a little laughter. Movies, comedy clubs, sharing jokes via email and social media are catalysts to spread the benefits of laughter because we know how good it feels to laugh!
It brings you back to the present moment. Psychology Today calls laughter a “collaboration between mind and body”. When you are stressed, you aren’t grounded or centered. Because laughter engages both body and mind, it snaps you out of your intense mental state and brings you to the present moment. You are back into your environment, feeling lighter, more open to clarity and ideas and your system is calmer.
The song “I Love to Laugh” In the classic movie Mary Poppins sums it up perfectly:
We love to laugh
Loud and long and clear
We love to laugh
So everybody can hear
The more you laugh
The more you fill with glee
And the more the glee
The more we’re a merrier we
Fall in love with laughter. Laugh loud and often. There is always room for laughter. It benefits everyone and makes the world brighter.
Julie Farha is a recognized intuition expert, intuitive insight coach, speaker, corporate trainer and author. She understands the importance of intuition and teaches people and companies how to apply it to everyday life and decision-making.
The Bigger Picture of the Cannabis Movement
Over the years there have been major changes in the cannabis industry. A paradigm shift is under way and it is bigger than you may realize.
Cannabis is more widely used and accepted for its health and wellness properties. CBD oil has become a popular mainstream remedy. Huge strides have been made to make medical marijuana legal. More states are legalizing recreational use and others are decriminalizing it.
However, there is more to this picture. Not only is major progress being made in the use and legalization of cannabis but stigmas are changing. It is not as taboo to use or even talk about a form of marijuana which makes utilizing it more comfortable and acceptable. Even the medical community is part of the conversation.
Perceptions are expanding. There is less judgment and more appreciation for the healing properties of cannabis. Recreational use is more socially tolerated. The increased decriminalization puts marijuana use on a safer path.
People who use cannabis in whatever form are now a part of the mainstream. They are no longer on the outskirts of society but are active members of communities and families, employees and employers. It is now an inclusive environment.
This is a mirror of a larger paradigm shift that is happening. As a whole, society is becoming more accepting, tolerant, aware and inclusive. For example, in the areas of religious and spiritual beliefs, sexual orientation, alternative medical approaches, racial and sexual equality, things are shifting. Sure we have a ways to go but progress is notable and will only continue.
As you engage in the paradigm shift of the cannabis movement, be mindful that you are part of a bigger picture. A creation of a more benevolent society and humankind is in the making and you are a part of it. Treat it with respect and reverence. Appreciate the change happening all around and keep up the good work!
Julie Farha is a recognized intuition expert, intuitive insight coach, speaker, corporate trainer and author. She understands the importance of intuition and teaches people and companies how to apply it to everyday life and decision-making.
The Value of Community
Community is a familiar concept. One definition is of community “a unified body of individuals”. It is also a social state or condition: “a group of people with a common characteristic or interest living together within a larger society” such as a neighborhood, family unit, workplace or school. In some cultures for example, extended families are heavily interdependent on each other, sharing resources as a means to survive and thrive. School sports encourage school spirit, fundraisers benefit programs, all facilitated by their community. Community creates a sense of belonging, a feeling of support and is a means to survive and thrive both individually and collectively.
The cannabis community is very familiar with the nature of community. As members of this community, you share information and resources for farming, formulation, distribution, application and business development. You join your efforts for the movement towards legalization. As a whole, you are also creating a paradigm shift regarding cannabis, the value of its uses and eliminating stigma. All of this allows your industry to survive and thrive. You understand the value of community in this way.
Now that you recognize how valuable community in this specific industry, think about the benefits of creating community in other areas of your life. A community offers support in good and bad times. It’s an opportunity for reciprocation to give and receive, to get what you need and provide a need to another. Look at your life and see where you could tap into this more: your place of work, your neighborhood, your spiritual or religious center, your gym just to name a few. Connect more with the people around you.
Do you know any of your neighbors? Create a sense of safety and support and get to know at least one of them. Walking your dog is a great way to do this. Do you belong to a gym or a social club? That is a good place to create community rooted in a common interest. Spiritual or religious centers are an obvious place where community exists but do you engage with others or do you just do your thing and leave? Perhaps you have a favorite coffee shop you frequent. That is a natural gathering place for community.
You don’t have to be extroverted to do this. In fact, it’s likely already happening and maybe you don’t recognize it. Just look around. Engage a little more. Have an interest in others well-being and share your own interest with others. You see first-hand how community benefits the cannabis community. Imagine what it can do for you personally and for those you love. Community begets itself. Once you have that mindset, you will see community in so many areas in your life. It brings a sense of comfort and confidence. The world is a safer place when you have community.
Julie Farha is a recognized intuition expert, intuitive insight coach, speaker, corporate trainer and author. She understands the importance of intuition and teaches people and companies how to apply it to everyday life and decision-making.
Stress Management for Cannabusiness Owners
Life is full of stressors and owning a business is at the top of the list. While being an entrepreneur offers a certain kind of freedom and creativity, it also creates its own unique pressures and responsibilities. Operating in stress mode negatively impacts productivity, focus and health and steals the enjoyment of the journey. Here are some suggestions to manage stress so you can function at a more optimal level and not get lost in the weeds.
Follow your gut feelings. Let your intuition guide you with decisions such as what to plant, where to plant, how to market, who to choose as partners. Your intuition is always right and allows you to make decisions with more ease and better outcomes.
Keep a running to do list in the notes section of your phone or whatever device you use most. When something pops in your head, add it to the list so that it gets out of your head and you can finish what you are doing at that time. Date it, remove what you accomplish and carry over what is still remaining to the next day.
Drink plenty of water. Water wakes up your brain if you feel tired or foggy. It lifts your spirits if you get in a slump. It calms your central nervous system. Water simply makes you feel better.
Breathe. Pause throughout your day and take 10 deep breathes. If you notice yourself feeling anxious, frantic or edgy, stop and breathe to center, calm and clear out the tension. It won’t take long and does you a world of good. Consider setting your phone alarm to go off periodically to remind you to pause, breathe and have a glass of water.
Turn your phone off periodically throughout your day. We are constantly checking our phones and responding to emails, texts, calls and data. This keeps your energy frenetic and impacts your ability to focus on the task at hand which makes you more stressed as you fear falling behind. Turn it off, turn it over, put it away while working on a task or to have a break from overwhelm of information inundation. More often than not, communication can have a slight delayed response.
Practice these techniques and make them part of your job. You will enjoy the journey of owning your own business and all the pleasures and pitfalls that goes with entrepreneurship plus it will bring more balance and harmony to all aspects of your life.